Recently, I had a discussion with a young man about, "Breaking up via text." I was upset to hear this is happening among the youth of today. All I could think about was how detached and distant it is to break up via a text message. The young man of 30, agreed with me.
If you cannot face another human being to tell them that you do not care for them in the same way any longer, in person, I believe there is a loss of human dignity at stake here. You see, being able to tell someone face to face, will make you a stronger person in the long run because if you have to look at someone who you no longer have feelings for, I mean, look them in the eyes, you get to see their reaction. Witnessing what a person feels is in itself, being intimate with another human being, in good times and in not so good times, and it gives you a full picture of true interaction.
When you break up with a person face to face as opposed to texting, you get to feel the total experience of making the wrong choice which can only help you be a stronger human being in the future and perhaps make you more sensitive to your choices in the dating scene. I understand the temptation to break up with someone in a text message, and please rethink ever doing that, please. You cheat yourself as well as the other individual, from witnessing the truth in action, not to mention how you cripple yourself in experiencing true intimacy.
Intimacy is one of those abstracts that is important to being human. We need intimacy with one another in order to connect heart to heart. Don't short change yourself from experiencing true intimacy with one another just to take the easy way out. In the long run, you don't win.
I so agree with you!!! It's everywhere....I mean technology....and it's here to stay, so why not keep some kind of balance, especially when it comes to people's feelings! Face to Face!
ReplyDeleteTechnology is a fabulous way to communicate, research and explore, present ideas, and do business, but I think we really need to have balance!
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ReplyDeleteI had posted a previous comment, but I realized that a video link was too extreme about this kind of a thing, breaking up by text. But anyway, I think it is not right at all to break up by text. I agree with your article fully! Congrats on your new blog, too!
ReplyDeleteI feel as humans we need to value our relationships enough to spend the time necessary in face to face contact, phone contact and yes even e-mails etc. Our society tries to speed up and fit as many things into our day that often we neglect the quality time with those dearest to us. If someone breaks up via text they are not allowing proper closure on either end. If I was with someone that did that I would be grateful not to have them in my life anymore as they are not valuing the word ( relationship.) Let's all remember to spend time in real relationships which involve quality one on one time, understanding, support and heart connection time, put away the technology and give yourselves this gift. Thank you!
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